Student panel about taboo subject stirs conversation amongst students
Amelia Wolf
Issue date: 11/17/09 Section: News
As panelists began to try and determine the reasons for why this hook up culture exists, technologies became a distinctive factor. "The point at which our parents were our age, they had conversations face to face. But now, men are scared to do that because of rejection. So, we text instead," Depuydt said. An audience member responded, "It's not a big deal if you talk about it. But, most people don't and that's how people get hurt. Nowadays people are afraid of rejection. Would you rather chase a girl for two hours or just go up and ask her? It's not a big deal to ask a girl 'Can I kiss you?' In fact, some girls like that."
DePuydt continued to say that people who were permiscious during our parents generation were "permiscious with honesty," they went out on a couple of dates, had sex, and then broke it off. But, is that really better? Or would people get even more hurt that way?
If so, is there a possibility that this no-strings-attached culture is progressing?
Contoversy arose. Maybe it is now a part of our culture, but, as audience member Patrick Sullivan mentioned, those who wait for marriage are less likely to get divorced. In response, another audience member suggested that people who wait are less likely to get divorced because they are more likely to stick it out and force it to work even if they are suffering.
It was inferred that these days, most people do not want to be in a relationship in which you don't have a physical connection but you also don't want to have a relationship based solely off of sex.
So where is the middle ground? An audience member mentioned that the situation is very hard for girls. The girls who meet you at a bar and are willing to give it up in one night aren't the ones you take seriously. But, if a guy dates a girl and she makes him wait to long, he will probably end it as well.
So where is the happy medium? It was determined that timing must be perfect, which is really hard for girls. Even the boys in the room seemed to agree that girls have it rough. Then, the moderator asked the question, "So why do girls get judged so easily when boys don't get judged at all in this regard?"
The most distinctive point made was that the real world is nothing like the Loyola "bubble." Here, the hook up culture has developed because it can and it's easy. But in the real world, it's not the same.
DePuydt continued to say that people who were permiscious during our parents generation were "permiscious with honesty," they went out on a couple of dates, had sex, and then broke it off. But, is that really better? Or would people get even more hurt that way?
If so, is there a possibility that this no-strings-attached culture is progressing?
Contoversy arose. Maybe it is now a part of our culture, but, as audience member Patrick Sullivan mentioned, those who wait for marriage are less likely to get divorced. In response, another audience member suggested that people who wait are less likely to get divorced because they are more likely to stick it out and force it to work even if they are suffering.
It was inferred that these days, most people do not want to be in a relationship in which you don't have a physical connection but you also don't want to have a relationship based solely off of sex.
So where is the middle ground? An audience member mentioned that the situation is very hard for girls. The girls who meet you at a bar and are willing to give it up in one night aren't the ones you take seriously. But, if a guy dates a girl and she makes him wait to long, he will probably end it as well.
So where is the happy medium? It was determined that timing must be perfect, which is really hard for girls. Even the boys in the room seemed to agree that girls have it rough. Then, the moderator asked the question, "So why do girls get judged so easily when boys don't get judged at all in this regard?"
The most distinctive point made was that the real world is nothing like the Loyola "bubble." Here, the hook up culture has developed because it can and it's easy. But in the real world, it's not the same.
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